No BS With Bukowski: The Glaring Problem With Our Society

By Chris Bukowski

After spending a few weeks back home in Chicago, it was time to head back to California. You’d think the older you get, the easier it would get to leave home. Nope! It doesn’t get any easier for me. I don’t care if it’s -20 degrees in Chicago and windy enough to fold your lips over your face, it’s still my home. Simply put, the sunshine and beaches could never replace home. Leaving my girl, Miley, in Chicago is always tough as the long distance thing continues to weigh on us. Seriously, whenever we Skype she doesn’t even speak. She literally stares at me through the computer screen. My dog is my girlfriendremember? Also, thanks for all the date offers following last week’s post. I’m flattered, but I decided to go the Lifetime and ice cream route.

If I continue to write about Miley, I’ll be sobbing under my desk for the rest of the day (that’d be a sight to see). Hold on, one more thing: I want to tell you what I’m eating and drinking right now because it’s a deadly combo. I’m drinking a cup of black coffee per usual, but this stuff is thick. I’m honestly not sure if this coffee would be classified as a solid or a liquid, but I could eat it with a spoon. Shout out to my colleague Jeff for knowing my afternoon coffee needs. To complement the coffee I have snap peas, carrots and Mediterranean hummus. I’m going to regret this later. I’ll also be sure to tell you all about my new minimal meat diet when I run out of things to write about (never happening!).

Anyway, let’s get to the meat and potatoes of my post this week. I was having a conversation with one of my buddies that turned into a bit of a friendly argument. Basically, it was about my social media posts; I prefer to be more conservative with my posts, regardless of how strong my stance is on the topic. I would love to go on social media and talk about my stance on Planned Parenthood, religion, politics, etc. and be able to make a difference. Those are all powerful topics on which I have extremely passionate stances. Admittedly, I do not have the guts to publicly stamp my name on some of these issues. I just can’t do it, probably because I prefer to come off as neutral for my own sanity.

Here’s the kicker: it’s extremely messed up that I have to hide my opinions.

Believe me, I want to do good and make a difference. I literally have spilled my guts over the past few months sharing my personal struggles with you all. Unfortunately, our society would prefer garbage over real issues. I can hit social media with something on a serious topic, such as Breast Cancer, and I’ll get a little bit of engagement and support. But if I do the same thing on a pop culture topic, such as Kim Kardashian’s latest drama, my computer will literally crash from all of the engagement on my post. What is the problem with us? Why do we care so much about pop culture? Why does reality TV take over our homes? Let me remind you: reality television and Hollywood are essentially fake worlds. Trust me, I’ve been there. I just don’t get it.

Why are the Kardashians more influential than someone like the President?! I’m not hating directly on the Kardashians — in fact, I think they are marketing geniuses — but how is a reality television family more influential in our society than people who can actually change the world for the better? The things and people that made America great have been replaced by pop culture phenoms. Will people like the Kardashians be in our kids’ history books? If I post something about ‘The Bachelor,’ people will read it far before a post I write about a significant issue in the world.

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Can you tell I’m frustrated?

Why do little girls want to be like Kylie Jenner? Why are the men and women fighting for our country taking a second fiddle to Honey Boo Boo? What are we doing?

Folks, we literally have a reality television star in the running for president. I understand Donald Trump is a strong business man, but for the love of God, people like him simply because he’s entertaining. Is that what this country needs? People say Trump’s the most real candidate. Well, the reason Donald is becoming so relatable to Americans is because we have shifted from true reality to believing everything we see on TV. I too was fooled for a little bit. Don’t get me wrong. I’m telling you from experience that what you see on reality TV is primarily fake. The one blessing from reality television I hold on to is I now have the audience and platforms to share my experiences. My mistakes left me wondering: why is it so difficult to do good? Why do we choose the fake nonsense over the real causes? I’m not speaking for everyone when I say this, but we’re stuck in a fake world. We’ve created a disaster by putting Hollywood stars on pedestals.

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It’s safe to say the Kardashian family is more influential than the first family. Read that again; you’ll probably agree. Why does Kim Kardashian have 37 million Twitter followers? Why is Caitlyn Jenner the woman of the year?

So, as I take a moment to breathe, understand my point: I want to do something “good” or bring awareness to an incredible cause, but I’m concerned no one really cares. Talking about something that doesn’t make a difference seems to be what people want to hear. I think now, more than ever, we are scared and embarrassed to be associated with things that actually matter. 

This is me putting myself out there in an effort to “help.”

We should all be frustrated by the things that take precedence in our world nowadays.

Are you listening now? Thanks for reading.

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